By invitation onlyFlame
$50+Dinner
Dinner, small group
- · By invite only event
- · Small curated group
- · Meet people who match your archetype personality
Now launching in NYC · Adults 25 – 55
Curated rooms. Real conversation. Real chemistry.
Allumer is coming to New York City — small, structured dating events with prompts designed to ignite real conversation. So you stop swiping and start connecting. From $25.
New York CityBalanced ratioCapped at 14 guestsGuided prompts25–55 yrNo phones at the tableReal conversationNew York CityBalanced ratioCapped at 14 guestsGuided prompts25–55 yrNo phones at the tableReal conversation
How Allumer works
Designed for real connection.
Pick a night
Browse intimate dinners, cocktail tastings, and activities in your city.
Designed for conversation
Every event is styled and structured for real talk — 10–14 guests, balanced ratio, intimate rooms.
Prompts to spark it
Optional prompt cards at every seat help the interesting questions come out naturally.
Coming to NYC
Upcoming NYC events
Small rooms, designed for real conversation. Capped at 14 guests so no one gets lost in the crowd.
Most popularGlow
$35Drinks · 2 hrs
Cocktail Hour
- · Small group for each age range
- · Prompt cards built to spark real conversations
- · Post-event insights
Summer favSpark
$25Outdoors · 90 min
Golden Hour Walk
- · Meet people in a relaxed environment
- · Prompt cards to keep the conversation flowing
The prompts
We hand you the spark. You light the rest.
“What's a belief you've quietly changed your mind about this year?”
“Where were you most yourself this week?”
“What's something you'd happily talk about for an hour?”
“What did you want to be at 16 — and what's left of that?”
Pricing
Real evenings, fair price.
No subscriptions. No swiping. Pay per event — drinks and dinner included where listed.
Most popular
Glow
$35+
Cocktail tastings & lounge nights
- 2 hrs
- Small group in each age range
- Curated prompt cards
Questions
Good ones, asked often.
How small are the events?
Between 10 and 14 guests. Small enough to actually meet everyone, big enough to find your people.
How do you balance the room?
Tickets release in pairs by gender and within a tight age range, so every event keeps a balanced ratio without us hand-picking guests.
I'm 47, is this for me?
Yes. Allumer is built for adults 25 to 55. Each event has a tighter age range posted upfront so you know who you'll meet. We encourage anyone within +/- 3 years of an event's age range to sign up.
What if it feels awkward?
It might at first — that's completely normal. Prompt cards at every seat are designed to help, and a host is there to keep things relaxed.
When do NYC events start?
We're finalizing the calendar now. Join the list and you'll be the first to know the moment dates and tickets go live.
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We'll email you the moment tickets open in New York City.